Obsession

You have decided to start your weight loss journey.  You are motivated and excited to get things moving.  Even more so by the image of who you expect to be after you have succeeded.  Beautiful body is your destiny.  You know, like in the magazines…

And the promises.  Near instant results are always guaranteed?….

Getting started is often easy enough for most of us.  Unfortunately shortly after getting started, reality will hit you right down if you let it.

Here is the truth.

Every fitness model in every magazine has worked long and hard for their look.  And by work I do not just mean exercise or diet or any one thing.  For them to have reached their success, they will have had to make a real commitment to carefully manage every aspect of their lives, with a single minded focus.  Get there and stay there.

They would also have had to do so for a long time.  Their success will have taken many years of blood, sweat and tears. Many years of sacrificing many things that we often take for granted.  The illusion that you could be fat today and thin and hot tomorrow, with little effort and time is just that.  An illusion.  Sure it is spellbinding, but an illusion nonetheless.

Obsession is what it will take. This means:

  • You will have to diet with single minded obsession.
  • You will have to exercise with single minded obsession.
  • You will have prioritise your life with single minded obsession.
  • You will have to live through, pain and discomfort, with single minded obsession.
  • You will have to sacrifice many things in your life, with single minded obsession.
  • You will have to do all of these at the same time for a long time, with single minded obsession.

It will be uncomfortable. It will be painful.  It will be hard.  It will also be fun. It will be exciting. And it will be worth it in ways that you cannot imagine.

Trust me on this one thing.  It is so worth it…

Limits “Un”-Defined

It is so truly amazing how easy it is for us to decide our limits and abilities without even really giving it a second thought.  Every decision we make and every thought that we have, defines who we think we are and what we think we are capable of. Limits what we can achieve.  Limits who we can be.

Talking to good friend in the throws of starting his first business, we were discussing potential clients.  Suggesting that he reach out to a rather large company in his field, his first and immediate reaction was, “They are too big a fish”.  And that was it.  Limit defined.

My next questions were : Why?  How do you know? What do you have too loose by trying?

The point is this.

How do you know if you do not at least try?

Think you cannot pick up the weight at the gym?  How do you know?  Have you tried?  Really tried?

Think you will never survive the next fitness class?  Are you sure?

Think you cannot loose weight? Hmpf….

No argument it will not be easy.  And your motivation to succeed will be tested over and over and over.  But if you never stop testing your limits, you will never find them.  All you have to do is just keep on testing.

Unlimited…  Just saying….

We Only Live Once

I was chatting to a good friend the other day, discussing the challenges associated with eliminating sugar out of any diet. And though we could not fully agree on the merits of such an action, she did make a statement that was rather disconcerting for it’s intent and context.  It was even more so since I have heard this statement from so many people in my life with similar context.  It is a defeatist statements.  It serves as an excuse for doing so many life destroying things.

“We only live once…”

Does that mean that it is fine to eat poison (things like sugar and chocolate and greasy cholesterol ridden foods), just because we must?  Because it will hurt or kill you sooner or later.  Or perhaps we should just jump out of a plane without a parachute.  Might be more fun and quicker at least.  I mean if suicide is your desire….

We only live once after all. Right?…

A little extreme, I know..

For me the realisation of the meaning of this statement however, holds a somewhat different meaning.  A question of how great will that life be?

I want to do things just because I can.  I want to live a long and healthy life.  I do not wish to die young and I most certainly do not wish live my life in a state of illness and discomfort for any duration of time.   If I am sticking around, I want to enjoy my life.  All of it.

So let’s stop using this as excuse for destructive behaviour and rather use it as a motivation for creating a better life.  A healthier life.  A life that is actually worth living, where we can live it focusing on things that really matter, rather than these trivial yet oh so destructive behaviours.

Live, love and enjoy the things that really matter.  And make it last if you can…. Just my two cents….