Keeping Change Permanent

As if reaching weight loss goals are not hard enough, once you reach those goals, staying on track and not reverting back to your previous self is nearly impossible.  In most instances, once goals are reached we tend to sigh  and then revert back to old habits.  Habits that got us to the unhappy place to begin with.

Therein the crux of our success, and failure.

It’s about habits.

In order to succeed at your weight loss, you would have had to develop and maintain some very specific habits to help you get there.  Once you reach your goals however, those habits do not work any more.  At some point you want to stop loosing weight.

Stopping the habits that got you there however will likely prove disastrous. Rather than stopping your habits keep on following them but adapt them to your new situation.  This may require some experimentation, however if you keep your weight loss habits as a foundation and always revert back to that in case your adjustments do not work, you will be able to stay the path.

This is the secret.  Keep the habits that helped you to loose weight.  Adjust the habits slightly to your new situation.  Keep on experimenting until you find the right mix.

That’s it.  Simple. Effective. Proven.

What Motivates You

When we make a choice to change, the decision is often followed by some half hearted attempt to affect the change, and then dismal failure.  After numerous attempts for most of us the choice not to change becomes just easier.

Why then is it so easy to fail?  Why is it so hard to succeed? Why …?

Rather than focusing on the reasons for failure why not focus on what really motivates us.  These are the questions that will decide our success or failure.

What is your real motivation? Why do you want to change?  What would you do to achieve it?

The funny thing about this is that even the threat of impending death is rarely enough to actually motivate us.  Consider this.

Do you like to eat chocolate or baked goods filled with sugary goodness?  If you do, I have to ask.  Are you not afraid of diabetes and obesity and all the issues that stem from that?  If you are, why do you continue to eat it then?  You like it?…

The reality is that most things that are not clearly impending (and sometimes not even then) are enough to motivate us to change, and stay the course when we do.  We need something else.

Think of something you like to do.  Something that gets you out of bed.  Something that is not hard to do over and over again.  What makes you do that?

I simply love doing the things that I love to do.  I enjoy social interaction a lot.  An opportunity to hang out with friends and of course meet some new ones.  Easy to do every single day.

Knowing this and knowing that I needed to do some exercise then helped me figure out that I needed to find a way to combine the two.

I do Zumba (and some other) classes.  Exercise, social interaction.  Lots of friends.  Love it, love it, love it….

I have been motivated, and continue to be so for years now.

That is the secret.  Find what you love, combine it with what you need, and see the change happen.

Simple as that.

Picking the right exercise

For most doing exercise as part of a life change plan is a lost cause, often before it even starts.  The commitment required to keep at it is just too much.  Conventional wisdom also pushes towards some sort of gym connection.  The expectation is : go to the gym, exercise, loose weight and look perfect.

And though this can be true, few ever really achieve success following this path.

The problem is boredom.  It is so hard to get excited about exercise if it is a chore and especially if it is boring.  You will keep on finding reasons not to do it.  Guaranteed fail.

For me there were three things that solved this problem.

Do something you love.

If you love the thing you are doing for exercise, it is very easy to stay the path.  It also does not really matter what it is, as long as you keep moving.  Whether it is cycling, running, walking, hiking, martial arts, Tai Chi, yoga kayaking, dancing or whatever.  Find the thing you love and do that.

Make sure it can be repeated.

Whatever you choose to do, be sure that you can repeat it over and over, until you meet your goals.  No point in doing something that you can do once or twice only or that is too restrictive.


Be sure to connect with people over it.  Whether you meet them there or they come with you.  Friends will keep you motivated.  Call you when you don’t show up.  Make it enjoyable when you go.  If your exercise becomes a social activity it is very easy to keep on going.  This will prove true even if the actual exercise is not that inspiring.

That’s it. Find what you love, make some friends, keep on doing it.